North Carolina Woman Defends Use of Racial Slur
|thenorthstar||Jul 28, 2019|
A white woman in North Carolina who berated two Black women at a restaurant and called one of them a racial slur has stated that she would say it again.
The incident reportedly occurred at a Bonefish Grill in North Hills, North Carolina on July 23. Nancy Goodman was caught on camera calling two Black women rude and complaining that they were loud, according to the video obtained by WRAL.
In the video, which was posted to social media, Goodman can be seen posing in the video, which was recorded by Chanda Stewart. She then approaches Stewart and her friend, Lakesha Shaw, and begins recording them herself. "We're paying for our food just like everyone else, and she told us that we are the rudest people," Stewart can be heard saying in the video as Goodman approaches their table.
As Goodman is recording, she tells the women she has “got real good friends who are Black, I love them.”
“We never said anything about color,” Stewart responded in the video posted to Facebook. “You’re too loud,” Goodman said. “In your opinion. Let me show you my money, it’s just as green as yours,” Shaw responds. Before leaving the table, Goodman tells the women “Why are you so stupid n***ger?” When the women ask if she calls her Black friends the offensive word, she picks up her purse and leaves, saying, “They’re not like you.”
Shaw told WRAL that she has never encountered anything like this before. She and Stewart are still trying to wrap their heads around the incident, calling the situation “disheartening.”
"I don’t care how you feel like we should have been acting," Shaw told the news station. "If I was standing on the table with three heads in a purple jumpsuit, nothing justifies you to come to my table and call me a stupid n***ger."
On July 24, Goodman told WRAL that she wished she had handled the situation differently by requesting that management ask the women to “quiet down,” noting that she suffers from anxiety. Despite this, she told the news station she was aware of the slur she used towards the two women and said she would not apologize for using it.
"I’m not going to say I’m sorry to them because they kept pushing at it," she said, according to WRAL. "I would say it again to them. They are the rudest individuals I have ever seen."
Despite using the racial slur, Goodman claims she is not a racist. "I have many Black friends, and I have never encountered three people that ugly in a bar," Goodman said. "I wish those women well, and maybe there’s a lesson learned for them, too, that you don’t disrespect an elderly person."
Shaw told the news station she was shocked after learning that Goodman was ready to use the slur again.
"The fact that you’re willing to say you will repeat that again shows me the hate that you harbor in your heart for the Black African American race," she said. "I don’t care what color I am. Give me the respect of being a human being, just like everyone else deserves."
After the incident, Shaw and Stewart told the news station they don’t plan on returning to Bonefish Grill. The two women said a manager should have stepped in to deescalate the situation. The North Star reached out to Bonefish Grill for comment but did not hear back in time for publication. In a statement to WRAL, a spokesperson for the restaurant chain’s parent company, Bloomin’ Brands Inc. said they are reviewing the incident to learn how to handle a situation like this if it happens again. "We are a place for all people to gather for good food in a comfortable atmosphere, including positive interactions among guests. We do not tolerate hate speech or disrespect in our restaurants," Elizabeth Watts said in a statement to the news station.
A similar incident occurred to a group of five friends who were staying at an Airbnb in New York City in June when their host called them “monkey” and evicted them from the townhouse in which they were staying. Kenneth Simpson posted a video to Twitter showing an Asian woman, who was identified as Kate, talking to a Black man while another man records their conversation in the background. Kate can be heard asking the men to leave because her rules on the Airbnb listing state there should be no parties or pets in her townhouse. While the men explained to her that the listing stated the space could sleep five people, four in a room and one on the couch. The Airbnb host can be heard asking, “Which monkey is going to stay on the couch?” Following the incident, Airbnb previously told The North Star that the hosts have been removed from the housing platform.
About the Author
Maria Perez is a breaking news writer for The North Star. She has an M.A. in Urban Reporting from the CUNY Graduate School of Journalism. She has been published in the various venues, including Newsweek, Juvenile Justice Information Exchange, City Limits, and local newspapers like The Wave and The Home Reporter.