Kanye West Is Giving Us Textbook Abusive Behavior: Why We Don’t See It That Way and Why That’s Dangerous
Yesterday, Shaun posted a very strong message condemning the abusive tactics of Kanye West against Kim Kardashian. A week before Shaun’s post, The North Star’s Chief Content Editor, Donney Rose, posted his own thoughts on West’s behavior and was the first person I saw to publicly acknowledge what we are missing as potentially dangerous. It’s great to see men speak out on this issue.
More of that, please.
As a child, I grew up in a house experiencing domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence). In my house, it looked like my stepfather beating my mother while my little sister and I sat on the couch scared and trembling. It looked like my mother going to church with bruises on her face and attempting to hide them under glasses. I have a terrible memory. I can barely name more than ten people I went to high school with. But I very clearly remember my mother’s strained screams as my stepfather hit her across the face. I remember her looking into the living room and trying to assure me and my crying sister, through her own tears, that she was ok after the beating had ceased. I also remember her having no real advocates or people she could go to for protection. I can recall her best friend at the time stating “Mark better not come over here with that mess.”
Or in other words, she wanted my mother to “keep that mess” at her own house.
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